Here at Shanghai Scrap we’ll admit to having a bit of a soft spot for holiday-themed blog posts – especially if they can be connected to old junk. But Valentine’s Day has always proven to be tricky: yes, scrap blogging – especially at Shanghai Scrap – is all about the love, but how to express the love to readers who don’t necessarily share it?
Well. It has long been my observation that some of the best and most trenchant observations on East-West relations come from those who have – or have had – East-West relations. Which is to say: you might just have a keener appreciation for the different ways in which China and, say, the United States resolve differences if you’re an American who’s had to resolve who gets to do the dishes with your Chinese partner. Obviously, there’s limits to this kind of wisdom, but you sort of get my point. The regrettable thing, though, is that this kind of thinking is seriously devalued, if not outright ignored, by most so-called “serious” thinkers about China and the West (many of whom are in such relationships).
So today, Valentine’s Day, Shanghai Scrap is going to strike a blow in favor of changing that. Enter Christine H. Tan, author of the relatively new but already much celebrated Shanghai Shiok! blog to discuss East-West relation(ship) blogs. Tan posts sporadically, but when she does, she posts brilliantly. Take, for example, her recent post on the poor reputation of mainland Chinese women in Southeast Asia. Superficially, the post is about … the poor reputation of mainland Chinese women in Southeast Asia. But read a little deeper, and it gets at the uneasy feelings that exist between the diaspora communities of Southeast Asia, and their Chinese origins – and there’s not a world leader or so-called analyst in it.

Christine H. Tan of Shanghai Shiok
There’s a wide and woolly world of blogs devoted to cross-cultural (East-West) relation(ships), and some are just as insightful. So, on Valentine’s Day, Tan has graciously agreed to share with Shanghai Scrap’s readers – generally, a group not inclined to read such blogs – some thoughts on why they should read East-West relationship blogs, what makes a good one, and just which ones are worth reading. So, at that, happy Valentine’s Day from Shanghai Scrap …
Scrap: Why do you read East-West relationship blogs, and why should everyone else?
Shiok!: Simple answer: I read blogs that talk about East-West relationships because I, like almost everyone else, like to waste hours online looking for information relevant to my personal life.
It was romantic frustration that first drove me to China-oriented relationship blogs. I remember sitting with my laptop in bed one night after three months of dating failures in Shanghai, maniacally Googling phrases like “relationships in China,” “white men yellow fever,” and “Chinese men dating,” looking for answers and advice on dating in China, trying to convince myself I wasn’t weird, undesirable, destined to be an old Chinese lady wandering the streets in colorful pajamas with only a pampered poodle to love me. (more…)